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The most important thing you bring to any relationship is your connection with yourself.

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Here are three recommendations for other accounts

Here are three recommendations for other accounts I follow and enjoy:

@nedratawwab - Nedra shares loads of really solid tips on boundaries, codependency, and communication.

@openrelating - Roy teaches skills for having healthier open relationships, with tons of great advice (a lot of which applies to monogamous folks too).

@markmanson - No-nonsense life advice from Mark Manson, who’s written a couple of books I’ve enjoyed too. I appreciate how succinctly he sums up (sometimes difficult) truths.

Who’s in your feed right now that you’d like to recommend?

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The thing about the stories we tell ourselves is t

The thing about the stories we tell ourselves is that they’re a way to justify our physiological responses.

It goes like this: all emotions are felt physiologically first of all. Changes in heart rate, temperature, perspiration, muscle tension and relaxation, digestion... these are all signals that your mind interprets as different emotions.

When a big response happens, your mind makes up a story that fits with the felt experience you’re having. Even if that story has little basis in reality.

This is because there’s a deep need for congruence, which means bringing your cognitive understanding in line with your felt experience of your own body.

So if your body responds to any experience in a way which you interpret as fear (heart racing, palms sweating), then your mind searches for evidence that there’s something really scary happening.

Which makes sense! Your body and your mind are working together to protect you.

The problem, of course, comes when we experience fear and there’s no real threat. Our minds automatically search for evidence of danger, which is why checking our reality out can be a powerful antidote.

Next time you feel anxious or afraid, check what’s really going on. What are you most afraid of? Is there any evidence that it’s actually happening right now? What objective evidence do you have, and what does it tell you?

Let me know if you try this out, I’d love to know how it goes for you.

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I speak to a lot of people who believe this. That

I speak to a lot of people who believe this. That doing ‘the work’ is a big deal, that it’s a hard, long process, and that they don’t even know where to start.

Personally, I believe that personal growth happens best when it’s *not* overwhelming. A little scary perhaps yes, but always tolerable. Growth happens when we are challenged, but not shut down. Uncomfortable, but not panicked.

Just like with physical exercise: you don’t push your body to the point where you might get injured, you learn to stop at the point where you’ve worked just hard enough to see improvements to your strength. Pushing beyond this becomes counter-productive.

And so it is with the emotional work of handling triggers and developing healthier relationships. If we push too hard, we end up back in our trauma responses and unable to process any change.

From this perspective, doing ‘the work’ becomes more about finding that sweet spot for yourself, and seeking out practices and methods that will support you to be in that place, while coming back to safety and relaxation relatively easily afterwards.

For some people that will be reading educational posts here on Instagram and teaching themselves more about relationship dynamics, or reading self-help books and exploring a couple of daily practices. Or maybe it’ll be journaling to better understand emotional responses.

For others, it’ll mean engaging in therapy, workshops or retreats, or exploring different relationship styles.

You can go at the pace you set for yourself.

What does ‘the work’ look like for you?

#coaching #emotionalhealth #healing #mentalselfcare #nervoussystem #nervoussystemregulation #polyvagaltheory #resilience #therapy #mentalhealthtips #lovetakeswork #ichooselove #couplegoals #authenticity #courage #starttoday #juststart #changeyourlife #selfhealer #selfmade #mindsetreset #starthere #personalgrowth #selfdevelopment #relationshipbuilding #regulationandresilience #attachmenttheory #communicationskills #relationships101 #healthymarriage

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