Intimacy Coaching

What would a healthy, happy relationship look like to you?

You’d love to be able to really say what’s on your mind and have more productive conversations, but what if it starts an argument or ends the relationship? What if they think you’re too much? What if you’re not heard or taken seriously?

Maybe you feel so detached from what you want that you find it hard to even think about yourself at all. Your energy is all on the other person, wanting to make sure they’re happy. But what about you? Who’s making sure your needs are met?

You know that communication and healthy boundaries are important in any relationship, but for some reason you can’t quite make it stick when it comes down to it. 

The first thing to know is that challenges with focusing on yourself and advocating for your own needs are a really normal response to emotional root causes that you may have been carrying for a long time.

Even if your childhood felt pretty happy and normal, it’s possible that your caregivers couldn’t always give you the time or care that you needed. 

Imagine the scene:

You’re eleven years old, and you’re hearing your parents arguing downstairs again. It’s not explosive, it’s not ‘that bad,’ but you’re aware of an atmosphere. In your mind you know they love you, and you know they’re not angry with you specifically… but there’s a feeling of unease and fear still. You feel a sense of responsibility – that it’s your job to soothe your parents and resolve the disagreement. That expressing your own upset won’t have any effect. Over time, you internalise the lesson that your role is to take care of others, that there’s no space for your own sadness or anger. 

Or maybe…

You were six when your mum first enrolled you in piano lessons. You were keen to begin with, especially as your mum was so enthusiastic about you starting… but after a few lessons you realised it wasn’t really for you. You didn’t really get along with your teacher, and you felt an amount of pressure that you didn’t really want. You tried to tell your mum that you didn’t want to continue, but you were brushed off and told, “you’ll enjoy it when you get there.” You learned that your ‘no’ would not be heard, that your preferences wouldn’t be taken into account. 

As infants and young children, if we sense that our caregivers aren’t emotionally attuned to our needs and present enough to pay attention to us, we learn to shut down and stop telling the people we’re closest to what’s really going on with us.

On the one hand this serves us really well as children, by protecting us from the overwhelming feelings of not being taken seriously… but it can lead to some really tricky relationship patterns as adults, such as constant people-pleasing, running away when things get vulnerable, or shutting down and not letting anyone in.

The coaching relationship is where we can begin to heal some of these old wounds. 

“My sessions with Hannah were so nourishing and rich, Hannah holds space so beautifully and remains grounded, calm and non-judgmental whilst guiding me to be aware of my breathing, body, feelings and emotions. Each session is different, Hannah uses the space and invited me to move my body, connect with my inner self and gave me tools to practice once I left the session. Hannah has true empathy while remaining professional and helped me with my own boundaries. I really look forward to working with Hannah again.”

KA

There’s a lot of work you can do on your own, but the most effective and lasting changes happen within the context of a compassionate relationship.

Together, we give you new experiences of getting in touch with your feelings and needs, having them honoured and acknowledged, and being truly seen by another person. 

Together, we give you a new blueprint for connection: one where there is safety and reciprocity.

Here’s what to expect:

  • You’ll learn to get better acquainted with your feelings (all of them). If you don’t have a relationship with your own feelings, how can you talk about them with anyone else? 

  • You’ll be given tools for communicating more effectively and working through moments of overwhelm. 

  • You’ll be guided to a deeper understanding of how your past may be affecting your present. 

  • You’ll be held in a space where everything is slowed riiight down, making room for your whole experience – body, mind, and emotions.

Sounding like something you’d benefit from?

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This is a powerful process, which takes advantage of your innate ability to bring your whole self to connection with another. Through the coaching relationship, we remind your body and nervous system that being in connection can be safe. 

And when you can feel safe in connection, well, communication feels easier. You can ask for what you want. Those anxious thoughts keeping you up at night, telling you that the other person doesn’t care, doesn’t want you – they’ll quieten. And there’s an underlying knowing that whatever happens, you’ll be ok.

My clients tell me that I help them with their boundaries by giving them tools and different ways to communicate, that I hold a safe space where they can really go deep and learn more about themselves, and that they feel supported in connecting more deeply with how they really feel.

Bringing awareness and compassion to difficult parts of yourself is the most powerful place to start. Connecting authentically with others starts with connecting authentically with yourself.

“Hannah offers beautifully soft yet powerful sessions. Using her naturally calm and supportive nature, I felt wholly able to dive deeply into personal reflections and swim in the depths of my feeling sensations within my body. I fully recommend Hannah to support people to feel into their patterns and make embodied changes to their lives.”

Emerald May

A bit more about me…

I’m trained as a coach in Psychosexual Somatics Therapy (PST), which is a gentle, trauma-aware method of moving through intimacy challenges – sexual, relational, or emotional. It emphasises nervous system regulation while addressing childhood attachment issues, by combining a cognitive understanding of the emotional root causes underneath the presenting issue, alongside embodied practices and somatic awareness.

I combine this with my experience of Authentic Relating, Non-Violent Communication, and Radical Honesty approaches – for super effective communication that’s direct without feeling aggressive. 

It’s a really awesome mix.

Above all, my mission is to support clients in slowing right down and feeling more of themselves. The connection you have with yourself is the most important thing you bring to any relationship with another person, so this is a really important place to start.

In my coaching work I believe that challenges that show up in sex and intimacy are not problems to be solved.

Instead they are clues to show us the parts of ourselves that are wanting some attention and care. This requires working slowly to find these vulnerable places, and working with them gently.

“Working with Hannah has been one of this year’s absolute highlights. Our sessions always felt like a friendly, warm and safe space where I could open myself up to seeing myself, my behaviour and my patterns with fresh eyes and from new vantage points. Hannah has helped me gain invaluable insights into myself as well as providing me with tools to keep connecting to, and to keep exploring how I feel, what I need, how I communicate, how I perceive myself and those around me and, most importantly, how to recognise my boundaries and better communicate them to those around me. I am really excited to see where this journey takes me from here. Thank you Hannah for being there at the outset!”

Kris

Curious about finding out how a healthy relationship could really feel?

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Is coaching right for you?

We could be a good fit, if…

  • You have lived experience of navigating the world as a girl/woman – whether it’s a big or small part of the way you experience and express gender today
  • You have some experience already of dropping into your body and feeling your emotions
  • Your mental health is solid: you don’t have any diagnoses or meds for depression or other disorders
  • You are ready to start challenging the patterns, stories and beliefs that are showing up in your relationships

How does coaching work?

We start with a free call to get to know each other a little better. It’s important that coaching is a good fit for both of us, so this gives us the chance to feel into that. I can ask about where you’re at, and you can ask anything you want to know about me, too. And no pressure – I can also recommend other approaches or practitioners if I feel there might be someone better suited to you.

Pricing

I offer three different tiers, depending on your needs:

Understanding Your Patterns

A 90 minute session where we go deep into your past and your present. You’ll gain new insights and understanding into your patterns and behaviours, finding new clarity and compassion.

1x 90 minute session

£120

Regulating Your Emotions

After an Understanding Your Patterns session, you’ll then learn skills you can use to regulate your own emotional responses and adult strategies to handle moments of overwhelm.

5x 90 minute sessions

£600 £540
Payment plans available

Coming Back to the Body

After understanding your patterns and learning to regulate your emotions, you’ll have space and time to connect more deeply with your body, accessing your deepest wants and needs.

10x 90 minute sessions

£1200 £1080
Payment plans available

“Hannah’s words calm the nerves while creating a space that feels safe and secure for you to go deep into yourself.”

AS

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